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Responsibility Junkies

Posted by on Jan 27, 2014 in blog | 0 comments

Responsibility Junkies

“If it’s never our fault we can’t take responsibility for it. If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim.” Richard Bach Some of us are responsibility junkies. We can’t carry enough responsibility, so we go looking for other people’s responsibility to carry as well. Ironically, everyone around us, including ourselves, gets weaker in this scenario. Those of us who carry more than our share of responsibility begin to buckle under that weight. Those of us who have the...

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Stories That Bind Us

Posted by on Jan 7, 2014 in blog | 0 comments

Stories That Bind Us

“Storytelling is important. Part of human continuity.” Robert Redford I love listening to the stories of my family, whether they predate me or not. Although, being the youngest I do love to be the center of attention and so I prefer stories that involve me! One of my favorite family stories is my mother’s memory of my grandmother’s funeral. Several priests recounted how my grandmother had paid for them to go to seminary and instructed them to never let anyone know about it. Our family stories remind me that we value generosity...

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Universal Truth

Posted by on Dec 14, 2013 in blog | 0 comments

Universal Truth

“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.” Buddha A few years ago I learned about the golden ratio and Fibonacci numbers. The Fibonacci sequence begins with the numbers 1 and 2. Here is how the sequence works: 1 + 2 = 3 2 + 3 = 5 3 + 5 = 8 And you keep going, adding the last two numbers of the sequence together to get the next number. The golden ratio is a mathematical phenomenon that I really can’t describe, but it is found in the Fibonacci numbers. When you divide two...

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Getting Playful!

Posted by on Dec 6, 2013 in blog | 1 comment

Getting Playful!

“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” Plato I could have easily quoted Jimminy Cricket for this post as well, “Just whistle while you work!” Our spirits come alive while we are playful. We experience light-hearted euphoria – dancing around the office or breaking into a chorus of song or spontaneously racing down the hallway on our roller chairs. Play both connects us and gives us a burst of emotional energy. It can break up the heavy pressure of meeting deadlines...

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Curiosity – the path to getting unstuck

Posted by on Nov 25, 2013 in blog | 0 comments

Curiosity – the path to getting unstuck

“Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.” James Stephens My business partner, Brian, is amazing at seeking and receiving feedback. He constantly reminds me that we need to put together feedback forms and use them at the end of our training sessions. He devours them and carefully gleans information that points to what is working and what can be improved. I on the other hand, become frozen with fear before reading feedback forms. I know I’m not alone in this fear. As a coach, I help clients initiate and incorporate...

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What’s Been Going Well?

Posted by on Nov 20, 2013 in blog | 0 comments

What’s Been Going Well?

“Celebrate what you want to see more of.” Tom Peters We filed into the conference room for a two hour meeting about the results of our program audit. The results were not that positive. The director of the program rotated between sitting and standing as she hammered on us the importance of documentation, training and holding people accountable. She spent an hour and fifty-five minutes addressing a litany of things we were not doing well. In the last five minutes of the meeting she paused and said, “but other than that,...

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Fear and Courage

Posted by on Nov 12, 2013 in blog | 0 comments

Fear and Courage

“Courage is the ability to let go of the unfamiliar.” Unknown   Nancy kept saying in our group that she needed to ‘get rid’ of her fear. It was like a mantra for her. Every momentary flicker of fear that registered in her awareness was to be eradicated by her shear force of will. She had shared her life story with us and we knew she had survived detainment by a foreign government, the loss of loved ones and major moves across the globe. Her stories evoked in us a sense of her courage, but her mantra tethered her to her fear. As a...

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The Gap Between the A’s

Posted by on Nov 4, 2013 in blog, Services | 0 comments

The Gap Between the A’s

“If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don’t have integrity, nothing else matters.” Alan K. Simpson   I know someone who rides her bike nearly everywhere. She values protecting the environment and puts that value into action every single day. I work with someone who invests in developing her staff. She values people and puts that value into action with the resources available to her. The ‘gap between the A’s’ is the space between your aspirational values and your actual practiced values....

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Keeping My Side of the Street Clean

Posted by on Oct 29, 2013 in blog | 0 comments

Keeping My Side of the Street Clean

“In my early profession years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?” Carl Rogers   The rooms of 12 step programs are bursting with wisdom. You can’t make it out of an hour meeting without some pithy saying urging and reminding you to keep focused on what you can control – which is simply you. Jim was always reminding me to stay on my side of the street. “Keep...

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Courageous Vulnerability

Posted by on Oct 22, 2013 in blog | 2 comments

Courageous Vulnerability

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin   Brene Brown is one of my favorite authors and thinkers. Her latest book, Daring Greatly, is all about courageous vulnerability. She has spent her career researching shame, connection and vulnerability. She defines vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. Well who wants any of that! Yet she also says, “vulnerability is the greatest measure of courage.” We all want more courage. We devote hours,...

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